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Blindsided

Photo Credit: MyFatPocket

Photo Credit: MyFatPocket

I am a great woman.

This is not self-centered, this is a fact. I have crafted her over 36 years and I am pleased with her. Do I have my faults? You better believe it. But the fact remains that I am certain that I am someone that God is proud of, that I am proud of and I continually work to make great.

Then why in the Sam Hill am I single?

I see women, every single day, getting swooped up and carted off to what appears to be a happily ever after. Meanwhile, I’m walking through a sea of men who seem to be blind to my presence. No matter what I do, they refuse to see me…

or is it simply that THEY CANT.

A man (or woman) will never see you if they are not looking for you. They literally have you blocked out. If they are not seeking or are intimidated by your attributes, they are blind to your presence no matter how amazing you are. In no way does this lessen your greatness; it just means that your view is not meant for them.

Whatever you do, do not fight for their sight. That is something you can never change. Simply continue to be and work on you, until the crisp clear vision or your person locks into place. You want that vision to be crystal because impaired site ultimately causes damage.

Remember those happily ever after moments that you keep seeing? Some of those may be a blurred mess of motions. Not everyone seeks clarity these days. Many settle for unclear intentions, that stop short of what they know they deserve, to attain temporary comfort. Don’t ever assume that their grass is greener.

The others are really, truly happy! And this is what we should all want for each other. Celebrate love and wait for your own tailor-made story. Not another one will ever be written in the same way. Relish in the fact that when it comes, it will be for you and him only.

Now, here comes the hard part…

What is your blinder?

Yes. We can have them too and quite frankly, they could be blocking you from seeing your person. Maybe you acquired your blinder through pain. Maybe it covers your eyes through pride. It quite possibly could have been placed by someone else and you just don’t have the strength to lift it yet. Maybe you don’t have one at all and you are completely open to encounter the very one who is meant to see you.

All of these are possibilities but it’s up to you to pinpoint, diagnose and repair if needed. Do not be the one that is walking around these crazy streets blind. You will never paint a clear picture with anyone until you gain personal clarity.

Continue your work in progress. Effort diligently, with intention, in prayer and continue to walk forward in faith. He promises that it will all unfold in your favor!

Running Men

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In the past month I was approached by 3 men, at 3 completely separate times, who wanted to get to know me. I was actually interested in all of them and thus reciprocated their requests. Subsequently each one of them ran…no sprinted…when they found out that I was waiting for marriage.

This has happened before and it will happen again until I find him.

Running men occur when waiting for your husband and while rejection definitely hurts, it’s part of the process that I am most grateful for. It completely weeds out the men who physically want you versus the men who actually want YOU. The men who merely want to sleep with you will straight Road Runner it the moment you speak the V in virgin.

Let them run.

 A man who isn’t patient enough to wait for you, sex or otherwise, will never last a lifetime.

And whatever you do, do not…I repeat DO NOT…run after a man who is running from you. It’s a pursuit that you will never win and quite frankly makes no sense. Love will never run from you and you will never have to run after it. Real love forms, happens, stays. I speak from experience on this (that’s a whole other blog).

Little do these guys know, they are running from a lifetime of the very thing that they want. Virgins are waiting to unleash every fantasy they have ever had on the one man that waits for them. They think about it all the time but find it special enough to save for one amazing person who deserves them. These running men, miss out on forever for an impatient moment. But that’s none of my business though.

PLEASE run from me so he has a clear path to find me.